Five Signs You’re Building a Friendship with God

friendshipwithGodWe are all God’s children, created in His image. This is a beautiful truth that gives us purpose and direction in life.

I love being Heavenly Father’s daughter. Without His fatherly comfort, I would probably be huddling in a dark corner somewhere.

That said, why settle? Wouldn’t it be nice to be God’s friend, too?

God is always our friend, of course. Our best friend, in fact. But a mutual friendship – where we are true friends to God, too – adds depth to the relationship. Such a friendship will not only enhance our Father-Child bonds, but help us mature spiritually and become like Him. (See Matt 5:48)

So how do you know you’re on the road to becoming someone worthy of being called God’s friend?

Enter the list! (gotta love the list)

Five Signs You’re Building a Friendship with God

1. You want to be His friend. This point may seem a little obvious, but the truth is our righteous desires often leave much to be…well, desired. Creating and maintaining deep relationships takes work. Are you willing to put time and effort into your friendship with God?

If you find that your desire to be God’s friend is flimsy at best, don’t worry. That’s because you don’t know Him that well yet. If you did, you’d be as passionate about Him as He is about you.

2. You counsel with him. As it says in Alma 37:37 in the Book of Mormon:

“Counsel with the Lord in all thy doings, and he will direct thee for good; yea, when thou liest down at night lie down unto the Lord, thathe may watch over you in your sleep; and when thou risest in the morning let thy heart be full of thanks unto God; and if ye do these things, ye shall be lifted up at the last day.

In this context, counseling indicates a two-way conversation with God, in which we ask for and receive His guidance. Earnest, heartfelt prayer is our way of speaking to God. His way of speaking to us may not be as direct, but if we learn to listen, His responses will grow clearer in both our heart and mind. He speaks to us in many ways. Through our feelings and thoughts. Through “coincidences” that aren’t really coincidences. Through the words of the scriptures, or a parent or friend (and even thorough “enemies” at times!).

3. You follow His guidance. (See John 15:14) This applies to the inspiration we receive in our counseling sessions with God, but also to the commandments in general. After all, ignoring what a would-be friend tells you doesn’t exactly cultivate your friendship with that person.

4. You put off “childish things.” (see 1 Cor 13:11) As I wrote in a recent post, we are often childish (in the negative sense of the word) in our spiritual attitudes and behavior. Heavenly Father knows what’s best for us and what will bring us the most happiness, yet we disobey His commandments. We rebel. Immature as we are, we resist His gentle guidance. We complain and grumble.

Following the commandments and the guidance we receive from God in our counseling sessions is key. But if our hearts aren’t in it, if we complain every step of the way…

Aren’t we just showing God we’re not quite ready for a “grown-up” friendship?

5. You trust Him and He trusts you. God’s promises aren’t always fulfilled the way we hope or think, but they are fulfilled. We can trust Him.

But can He trust us? Are we loyal? Reliable? Trustworthy?

In other words, do we act as a true friend would?

And, finally, a bonus point:

You feel it. You know God’s got your back. He knows you’ve got His.

As I go through my own list, I see that I need to work on every single point. In fact, the list makes me realize what a fickle friend I am.

But I know God isn’t. And just that simple knowledge makes me want to be His Best Friend Forever.


  1. Thanks for the encouragement, dear. Pinning this right now!

  2. God is not a fickle friend and it’s a good thing for all of us!
    I like #4, hopefully I can move to a more mature relationship and quit being childish. Work in progress…

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