Thirteen (Lucky) Reasons God Isn’t Giving You What You Want


This is what I really want. Or is it?

“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.” (Matthew 7:7)

What an amazing promise!

But then one day, you find yourself thinking:

Why isn’t God giving me what I want, then?

Because you’re praying hard.  You’re doing your best to keep His commandments. You’re exercising faith.

And still…nothing.

Take a look at that scripture again. Note how it doesn’t say “Ask, and exactly what ye want shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find exactly what ye think you want to find; knock, and the exact door ye want opened shall be opened unto you.”

After all, God isn’t a genie, bound to fulfill our every whim and wish. And after thinking some more about the following list, you might even feel inclined to say a prayer of thanks that He isn’t.

Thirteen (Lucky) Reasons God Isn’t Giving You What You Want:

1. You haven’t asked hard enough. (It needed to be said)

2. You need to learn to be more patient. (It needed to be said)

3. You’re not being specific enough.

4. He’s already given you what you want, but you don’t recognize it. This is especially true in combination with the previous point about specificity – how can you know you’ve received what you asked for if you’re not really sure what you asked for?

5. The timing isn’t right. Maybe something else has to happen first?

6. You’re not ready to handle what you want. You may want a pony, but maybe you should prove you can feed your goldfish first.

7. What you want isn’t His to give. Let me give you an example. How many times have you prayed for patience (and wanted it right away) and then found yourself failing the first test of that patience? Why didn’t God give you patience to face the challenge? As it turns out, God is happy to give us opportunities to grow, but we develop character by how we choose to respond to those opportunities. That said, He is happy to lend you His strength during the moments you really can’t handle on your own.

8. What you want prevents you from getting something you want even more.

9. What you want clashes with someone else’s free will. Sorry, teenage girls: no matter how much you pray that the guy in your favorite band will knock on your door and declare his forever love for you, it probably won’t happen anytime soon.

10. What you want is bad for you in the long run. Pay attention, above-mentioned teenage girls.

11. What you want isn’t what you need. Ok, teenage girls, I really don’t want to pick on you, but…

12. You really don’t want what you want. Ok, let’s harass the adults for a moment. You think you want that house you put in an offer on, but what you don’t realize now is that the huge mortgage will unhinge you mentally and ruin you financially. What you really want is to be happy and have peace of mind. (On a personal note, this is probably one of the reasons we didn’t get the house we put in an offer on last year!)

13. He has something much better in store for you. And that may be the most beautiful reason of all.

I’m sure this isn’t an exhaustive list, but you get the point. Chances are you’d be miserable if you got what you asked for! And, if you’re anything like me, you’d probably blame God for that misery. (we humans are awesome like that)

Look at it this way: now I’ve given you thirteen additional reasons to add the phrase “thy will be done” to your prayers!

What are some things you used to want that you’re now glad God didn’t give you?

A few additional scriptures on this topic for those who are interested:

John 16:24, James 4:3, D&C 8:10, Helaman 10:4-5, D&C 82:10


  1. A horse! If I would have had a horse, i definitely wouldn’t have gone to byu hawaii and later byu and I wouldn’t have met sean! Not saying I still don’t want a horse but maybe sometime in the future when the time is right…. :) awesome post!!

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